Happy year of the Dragon to everyone! Hope this one will be auspicious and filled with prosperity and health!

For the first time in 10 years, I’m ringing in Chinese New Year in North America, and I feel FAR from my favorite continent for sure. I put up Chinese decorations around the house, and showed tv shows and cartoons and played related music to my daughter. Hopefully we’ll get to celebrate new year in Asia again in the near future! Thanks to the Internet, I’ve been able to watch Chinese tv and shows, live, on my Ipad and computer. I’m not sure this helps bring me closer or actually rubs in the ‘home’ sickness even more. Anyhow, I’m thankful I have access to all this.

How do you celebrate Chinese or Lunar New Year? Have you looked into it? What does it mean to you?

Just a quick post to wish you all near and far a very happy year 2012 with all the bells, whistles, love, health and good fortune! Let’s hope this will be a good one, it’s a Dragon year, which should be very auspicious.

Christmas is in exactly ten days and it’s the grand finale of the shopping frenzy that started after Halloween. Of course, this time of the year is special and it’s nice to know we’ll soon see family we didn’t get to see enough again this year. But also, it’s such a time of over the top buying and consumming just for the sake of ‘Xmas’! I’m glad my extended family all agree that they don’t need more stuff in their already full houses and they prefer focussing on spending time together. So we just give each other simple goods we can consumme, eg bath and body products, books, gourmet food stuff. This year I even went for another option, for my aunts that have everything they need: a Kiva gift card!

I started using Kiva.org has a charity myself last Spring and I love the concept. It’s a micro-credit organism that matches lenders (us) to borrowers from different country who would like to either start or expand a business, build a better house for their family or get help with their farming to buy seeds or more animals.  You get to browse at their projects and choose who to lend your money to. There is something for everyone! Then after a few weeks, you get your money back and can reloan it to other borrowers. I love this modest way of helping others and will keep at it!

Back to our Christmas topic. My daughter. She’s 14 months old. She has about the same thrill playing with her dolls and toys than with plastic containers, shoes, anything around the house and toilet paper! She specially loves the later and would go through 10 rolls a day if allowed to. Not very eco-friendly.

Dolls get hungry too!

Now this is fun!

 All this makes me wonder what to buy her for Christmas… One more doll or toy, which we already have tons of!

What do you give to your one year old toddler for Christmas? Tell me, I need inspiration!

My girl so happy in the leaves!

We’re still there, don’t worry! Blogging from China has been very hectic over the last few months, everytime I could find a few minutes to log into my blog, either the speed was too slow to do anything good, or the connection was failing! So that’s why I haven’t blogged in months!

My girl turned one recently, she was already walking at 11 months, she’s now almost running, she’s more and more curious and adventurous! It’s so amazing to watch her grow and learn everything! She has a lot of fun playing in the autumn leaves and walking around the yard!

I’ll come back to my official topic of cultural differences in parenting practices soon enough!

If you don’t have kids yet, you probably already have an image in mind if you try to picture yourself as a mother. Before having my girl, I was picturing myself reading a book on the sofa with my baby sleeping in my arms or beside me.

My mom was often saying how much she was looking forward to go to Ikea with my future baby and have fun decorating the baby room or even just looking at the furniture! She likes going there and since it’s by far the most kid friendly furniture store on Earth, it’s always full of young moms and their stroller. Every time she went there she was saying how many babies she had seen that day!

So now it’s her turn to be the proud grandma pushing the stroller at Ikea! She’s lucky to have a patient granddaughter who loves looking at everything in stores and restaurants!!!

How do you or did you picture yourself as a mom? How close is reality to that image?

 

 

Been back in Canada for over two months now and while I do miss my husband and China like crazy, it’s good to see family and friends and be in a healthier environment. The endless flight was OK after an hour of crying from check in till take off. After that, my baby was a charm, she fed as usual, smiled at the attendants, slept like a log for most of the flight.

The inital honeymoon phase of being back ‘home’ wore off recently and I’m amazed to see the differences in lifestyle, even more so in parenting. Is it just me or life in the West seems much more complicated than back in China? It’s hard to explain, but here there is this ever pervasive pressure to ‘be perfect’ in everything. Perfect house, perfect cooking, perfect housekeeping, perfect parenting, latest gizmo, endless buying of bigger and better baby gear… Maybe I don’t know enough parents of young children in China to make a true comparison, but still, from my 10 years in the area, I can vouch it’s not ‘that’ complicated back there. Anyhow, everybody is trying their best for their children and it materializes differently according to culture and location.

Then I was amazed to see many toys and baby gear that were used when I was a kid either being banned or just not sold anymore. What happened to the good old walker most of us thirtysomething people spent hours in as babies? I was told it’s now banned because it was causing too many injuries … mostly in stairs!!!! Who’s to blame? The walker or the parent? Anyhow, anything can be dangerous when put in a baby’s hands and left unattended!!! Needless to say, walkers are still widely sold in China and I might get one when we go back! [No worries about stairs: we live in an apartment, so we're safe!]

So instead of a walker we got this huge thing as seen in the background on the above picture, named ‘exersaucer’… My girl loves it and has a great time playing with all the toys and bouncing on her legs. That being said, this thing weighs around 50 pounds and will take like 900 years to degrade back into dust and makes me feel bad for the environment. Old school walkers, that are way more resource saving, have been banned for the last 10 years in Canada, so good luck finding one!

And then I made my first ‘me’ purchase since having my baby: a long awaited Ipad 2. It makes the hours I spend feeding and then holding my sleeping baby way more productive, as I can now read ebooks!!! I tried holding books with one hand while she was sleeping on my other arm and it doesn’t work well, specially since most of the books I read tend to be big! Then once the book is read it’s just extra clutter that I don’t need! One more issue solved by the ereader / Ipad is availability, as getting foreign books in Beijing is not always a piece of cake. Now I can have tons of books in my virtual library and my Ipad doesn’t weigh a gram more. Nice eh? I’ve been enjoying it greatly!

Anyhow, can’t believe I actually made time for a post. Now it’s time to book a return flight back home to Beijing, I really miss it!!!

What baby gear from your childhood would you still use?

What do you miss from that time?

What ‘me’ purchase did you make lately?

(This is what you get when you search ‘busy mom’ images!)

Sorry about the radio silence, it’s a bit hard to find a few uninterrupted minutes to sit down at the computer, even tougher to get a post going for my blog. I’ve been mulling over the ‘total motherhood’ thing for quite a while, then the ‘Chinese Tiger Mom’ 15 minutes of fame came around, which also deserved a post in itself, then what not, then Woman’s Day… Ahhhhh, it’s actually been so long since my last post that my baby is now babbling instead of cooing and can sit unassisted for a few seconds! I fly back to Canada for a long awaited trip where my extended family and friends will finally meet my baby. The idea of a 13-hour flight with a 5 month old baby is not exactly exciting, but the ordeal will be greatly rewarded!

I’m coming up with my thoughts on the current ‘in thing,’ total motherhood, that seemed cool at first but keeps on giving on the shocking front the more I think about it… One interesting thing: I’m not the only one to think that concept is a tiny bit too invasive, critics are plenty! Coming shortly!!!

Mila’s Daydreams blog snapshot as of 01/08/2011.

 

When is too much of a good thing just … too much? A blogging mamma found out that when you add up talent, creativity, cute baby, very interesting baby pictures, and too efficient social networking websites you’ve got a recipe for… too much attention. Here’s a recap.

A Finnish lady on maternity leave started taking amazing pictures of her gorgeous sleeping newborn in different backdrops cleverly made of folded clothing and daily objects. The blog is Mila’s Daydreams, blogging mamma Adele Enersen. Her pictures have been published left right and center, so I’m just posting a ‘print screen’ rendition of her blog as seen today. Go have a look at the blog, it’s well worth it, and not only for baby pictures, but also for other topics.

OK, we all like taking pictures of our babies, but this mamma took it to the next level: she created pretty backdrops on her living room rug using mostly her imagination. The results were so amazing that she got a huge following and people started circulating her pictures in emails, blogs, etc. On her own account, most of that following was positive. But some people showed a nastier side of human nature. Some even took the freedom to say ‘they’ took these pics. Others went on using them for publications and such. A big baby photography contest is even held ’in the spirit of’ where contestants are told to google out her name to get inspiration for their own photos… (Contest which she most likely refused to be associated with in the first place!) Things got out of control and fast!

One good thing is that she will publish a story book showing the original pictures and the stories around them. The book is due for 2012, can’t wait to get a copy and read it to my girl!  

Her blog was originally a way to stay in touch with friends and family, just like mine and most blogging mammas’ I know. But boy did it got in touch with way more people than intended to! The internet is an amazing tool for the most part. I was happy to discover her photos and can’t get enough of them and I’m happy to read other blog entries too. Her blog is also a nice way to learn about Finnish life, as it is a fairly different reality than life in Beijing. There is even a cool recipe for a spice cake that sounds heavenly, will have to try that soon!

An ‘oh-so-productive’ day’s to-do list!

All that being said, I used to feel I had a ‘productive’ day when all the house stuff got done, baby and I were groomed all right, snapped a few cute pics of my baby sleeping or doing her thing (in regular clothes on the sofa!), bought everything I needed online, and could envision the possibility of cooking dinner myself! Ouch, did that get reviewed!!! Baby photography and housewifing will never be the same!!! It’s not the voice of jealousy speaking here, it’s humility!!! Humbling, humbling, humbling! And motivating at the same time! (Yes, I WILL complete the pregnancy book before my girl is old enough to read it by herself!)

But back to our topic. This case of ‘out of control fame thanks to internet’ is an interesting one involving intellectual property, abuse of technology (eg: those who replaced the original watermarks by their own,) plagiarism, idea borrowing, and much more. All this is made super touchy because the plagiarised art is indeed baby pictures, so throw in some children’s privacy issues! How will this evolve? Who knows, but it’s worth following. I hope the people who did infringe copyrights will be sued and fined accordingly, and learn their lesson.

For now, I’ll keep blogging (ahem, I should say resume) about cultural differences in child rearing, an endless topic that I’m more busy experimenting about! I hope mammas around the world will keep blogging freely about whatever topic they want and be able to post pictures of their lovely babies.

photo © Fran Parente

Ah, baby gear!!! There is so much stuff that makes life with a baby nicer or safer or cooler! Most things are cute enough, but hideous from a design point of view! One thing I haven’t got around to buying yet is a crib. To me they look like jails for babies and I am trying to find an alternative to it, but there seems to be none!!! My baby is still small enough to sleep safely on a regular bed without any chance of falling or hurting herself, so we still got some time. This morning I stumbled on a  webpage showcasing Hussein Jarouche’s awesome apartment that includes a baby room, with a twist!!! Most cool apartments shown in magazines or websites usually are for childless couples. This nursery is cool!!!! The crib on wheels is a fun twist on the classic crib, but it still looks like a prison somehow!!!

After asking a few Chinese parents on the local use of cribs, I found out most people raising their kids with the extended family simply co-sleep with the baby for the first year or so, and then switch the child to one of the grandparents’ bed. A lot of parents also keep sleeping with the kid for many years. Then other families, mostly urban, do buy a crib and put it in their bedroom. That explains why cribs are sold widely here. In the case of a lot of migrant worker mothers, which often stay at their husband’s family home after delivery and for the first few months after birth, the baby stays with her in-laws and most likely sleeps with the mother-in-law. (Will have to post later about migrant workers, as they is a lot of them here in China and their plight is not well known in the West.)  

Any suggestions on what to buy? Where does your baby sleep?!?! What alternatives are there to cribs?

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